AI for Wedding Vows: Your Secret Weapon for Heartfelt, Personalized Vows.

Let’s be real: the thought of writing your wedding vows can feel more daunting than planning the entire wedding itself! You want them to be perfect, to capture every ounce of love, laughter, and future dreams you share with your partner. But staring down that blank page? Utterly terrifying. Good news future spouses: I’m wholeheartedly pro-AI, and I’m here to show you how this tool can be your ultimate secret weapon. Don’t fear technology or be ashamed to use it - you are new to this whole vow writing thing after all. While I have written thousands of pages of wedding ceremonies and heard hundreds of personal vows, you simply haven’t had that opportunity! Let’s add AI to your toolkit and wield it in a powerful (and smart!) way. I’ll give you 3 ways you can use AI as your secret weapon for heartfelt and personalized wedding vows that are still authentically you.  

You aren't a robot, make sure your vows don't sound like you are.

3 Ways AI for Can Help You Write Vows

1. Kickstart SOMETHING on the Page

Seeing a blank page document, a blank notes app on your phone, or if you’re going old school - a blank piece of paper pen in hand - is utterly terrifying. Even as I write this blog, seeing so much blank space to be filled with all the words that seem so eloquent in my head - how to bridge the gap between heart -> head -> written can become an overwhelming task when writing your wedding vows. 

Moreso, it can bring back PTSD from school assignments that gave you terror. Especially if you procrastinated your vows until the last minute - a deadline to fill reminding you of how you procrastinated all those assignments in school (because let’s be honest - procrastination is probably not a new character trait just popping up). 

Using AI can help you start somewhere. Treat this as a rough draft, or something to turn in if all else fails type of mentality - really takes the pressure off. There is SOMETHING there (like the age old adage “something is better than nothing”), you won’t be standing in front of your significant other blank stares reflecting the blank page in front of you. The pressure of procrastination is a huge barrier to overcome and I think once that monkey is off your back you will find that you can think a little more freely as you edit. 

Some Prompts to Get You Started: 

Stream of Consciousness Approach: Just write a stream of conscious style about your partner and what you like about them. Don’t think about grammar, throw spelling out the window, and just write about them. Anything that comes to mind, no judgement, just go go go. Once you are done add this line: “Here is a stream-of-consciousness brain dump about my partner and our relationship. I haven’t focused on grammar or structure; this is just raw thoughts and feelings. Please use what I’ve written below to draft romantic and enduring wedding vows for our ceremony. Ensure they capture my voice and essence of my feelings. {past your stream of consciousness below}.  

Q&A Approach: Ask ChatGPT or Gemini to ask you some questions to get you started and get some brainstorming in place. If you just ask the AI to blanket ask some questions, sometimes it can get overwhelming with 20-30 questions to answer. Instead add some parameters to it so you don’t get overwhelmed. Here’s my favorite prompt: I am starting to write my wedding vows and I am struggling to start. Please ask me 3-5 questions that will help me get started writing personalized vows to articulate how much my partner means to me and hopes for our future together as a married couple. 

2. It’s Your Sounding Board - Because Your Future Spouse Can’t be for This Particular Task

You and your partner are likely best friends, sharing every thought, getting advice, and venting about anything and everything. But when it comes to writing your wedding vows? Suddenly, your go-to confidant is off-limits. 

Think about what it was like to pick that engagement ring out (or if you were the receiving portion of the equation put yourself in their shoes). You had this huge task of picking out the perfect ring to capture how much you love them and also what they would want. You may have some hints to go off of, some family members giving you advice, or a Pinterest board to peak at. But overall, you are going in with just yourself and what I hope is a very helpful sales associate guiding you through the stress. The same is true for this part of the wedding. Asking your partner for advice just can’t happen when writing your vows to them. 

Throwing what you have at AI to ask for advice on how to make it more romantic, or revisions can be the necessary sounding board you need for your wedding vows - that can keep a secret! 

Some Prompts to Get You Started: 

Pull from the Classics: Copy and paste what you have and then start to think about what movies/songs/poems/tv shows that you and your partner love. 

Once you are done add this line: Above are my wedding vows, I would like to incorporate elements from {insert those movies/songs/poems/tv shows} into what is already written to more heavily personalize my wedding vows. Please suggest ways to subtly and meaningfully incorporate elements, quotes or themes from these into my vows. The goal is to enhance, not overshadow or make a parody, of my original message. 

Revisionist:Sometimes all you need from AI is just to correct it! After you copy and paste what you have, add: Above are my wedding vows. Please correct the above writing to be more {romantic, funny, etc.} and also correct any spelling or grammar issues. Add the corrections in bold next to the original document so I can review and choose what corrections I would like to implement into my speech. 

3. What to Avoid when using AI 

Here’s the golden rule of AI, and I can’t stress this enough: NEVER JUST COPY AND PASTE THE AI-GENERATED WEDDING VOWS AND CALL IT A DAY! I can guarantee you that AI, while it can be romantic and funny and a wonderful wordsmith, is NEVER a substitute for your voice and cadence. 

I hate when I read captions on instagram (which prompted this blog post!) that are CLEARLY AI generated. It feels stiff, it feels fake, it feels robotic. It’s like eating a Costco cake or when you get a card that just has a signature after the generalized greeting inside - it’s missing that special ingredient, that special touch. Just like homemade baked goods and even a line or two at the bottom of a card make all the difference, there’s a special something that made your significant other fall in love with you and that’s what they want to hear. 

I'm not AI generating your vows and shouldn't be either!

Conclusion: 

Your significant other fell in love with you, not an algorithm (even if an algorithm helped get you two together in the first place). They want to have this ceremony, this moment in time to hear your heart, your memories, your promises, expressed only how you can! AI is a wonderful tool to overcome writer’s block, refine your words, and explore ideas, but the final, heartfelt masterpiece must be infused with your soul. Don’t let convenience overshadow authenticity.